Friday, August 19, 2005

Farewell to Sinnerman

This morning, one of my favourite people in the world, Ro (otherwise known as Sinnerman) left the shores of Singapore for good to pursue his dreams.

He is one of those rare souls with whom I have a very special connection. One that's undiluted by the other connections each of us has with other people.

He was supposed to fly off on Saturday morning, but due to some screw-up in SQ's website, the only flight he could get on was on Friday morning. When he told me this, I was stunned. Actually I felt angry. Very angry with him. For no fault of his, but I was.

My crazy schedules gave me no time to spend any time with him during the week. I had plans of a proper farewell party on Friday night, and a proper send-off at the airport on Saturday morning. But everything was moved forward by a day, and I could not do anything other than just attend a rushed farewell party thrown by his other friends on Thursday night. And since I had class and house-signing that night, I reached the party really late. The thought of seeing him only for an hour or so in a big crowd was frustrating.

That's all I get? He just goes away like that? What utter nonsense!


I was getting angrier by the minute. If you're a friend of Sayesha's, you can't just go away like that. I won't let you. That's how I am. Take it or leave it.

And so, as everyone said their goodbyes to him after the party, I had made up my mind. I was not gonna give up without a fight.


So this morning when I woke up, I sent my Managing Editor an sms, telling him I would be taking half-day off. I'd just taken half-day off yesterday, and I knew I was treading dangerous ground just a week before my appraisal, by asking for leave on the very morning of a very important meeting. But I didn't care.

Some things matter so much that others don't anymore.

And so, this morning, two close friends met each other one last time at the airport, and relived the precious moments of the past. As we walked towards the immigration gates, I had his passport in my hand. And just like that, I had a sudden desire to confiscate it. Yeah, I knew I was being stupid. He had to go. I had to let him go. And so I saw him off without a tear, and then went to work with a happy heart, listening to a song both of us are crazy about, and knowing that people who matter will always stay in my heart, no matter where they go.

Farewell, Sinnerman. Friend. Philosopher. Photographer.

And here are three of my favourite photos he'd taken of me.




















Sayesha in a roadside bookshop on the streets of Phnom Penh, Cambodia
















Sayesha at the Red Onion, Port Dickson, Malaysia





















Sayesha on the beach at Redang island, Malaysia



28 comments:

Shina said...

Shina welcomes Sinnerman! I have been longing for this day! I am sorry you had to let go of him. I am sorry your misery is my joy. *grin*

Sayesha said...

Shina!!
It's really you?!
Wow, and you still read this blog??
Girl, you'd better take good care of my friend. Or I'll hunt you down and kick your ass.
:)

Shina said...

Sayesha dear you have had him for long enough...it is my turn now...lets not have a catfight over Sinnerman...he'll get his due attention over here...i adore him just as much...he is precious to me just as much...something both of us have in common...i happened to read ur blog today...just read this post though...

Sayesha said...

Hahaha! Shina, look at us, Sinner's on the flight right now, and we're squabbling away. I can imagine his face when he reads all this! :D
Yes, I am fiercely protective (and often, possessive) about friends who are dear to me.
So thank your stars that I like you. :)

Shina said...

trust me when it comes to being possessive abt friends and especially those who are close to me i m dangerously possessive... just ask sinnerman himself sometime and he'd tell you abt the degree of my possessiveness ...so yeah it goes to say that you are on my good side too... *wink*

virdi said...

bye bye sinnerman... and thanks for the hand foto... :-D
V..

Anil said...

Hahaha.... and in the middle of everything all that Virdi can see is a hand photo!

virdi said...

anil, shut the duck up... tum nahi samjhoge anil, kuch kuch hota hai... ok tell me isn't that hand pretty?? ok sinnerman is going good luck to him and all that but isnt that hand prettu?? just see the nails, they r just of the right size and shape and the................ i can go on and on and on.. its a pretty hand.. :-)
V..

Anil said...

"just the right size and shape..."

sounds like you are trying to buy 'sabzi' at the market!

patiala pataka said...

Happy Raksha Bandhan!! ;)

Siddhu said...

Virdi, that was hilarious! The post brought me down some, cuz it was kinda depressing and all that, and then off you come with a blinder of an unrelated comment.

I'm still ROTFLing over the hand. :D

raven said...

a post to add a bright spark in my dull day. am not sure though as to what added the spark - the blog itself or sayesha-shina and virdi-amit exchanges :)

keep it up... all 4 of u

Sayesha said...

I am equally amused by Pat Pat's sudden 'Happy Raksha Bandhan'!! :D

patiala pataka said...

Sayesha, I'm trying to cheer you up yaar!

Jasmine said...

Questions: Do you always wear hats? Are you wearing a hat in the hand picture, too, except we can't see it?

Sayesha said...

Pat Pat,
Hahahaha! Thanks, man! Your 'Happy Raksha Bandhan' didn't quite cheer me up, but your explanation sure did! :P

Jasmine,
Hehehe... yeah, I LOVE hats! :P
I wear them all the time when I am on holiday :)

Arz000n said...

In tht second snap....u wearing cap or something??
Just curious :D

Sayesha said...

It's a bandana. (I LOVE bandanas too!) One of the corners is sticking out, making it look like a cap :)

Manish said...

Liked that library pic!

If you're a friend of Sayesha's, you can't just go away like that. I won't let you. That's how I am. Take it or leave it.

sounds grt! that shoud be a spirit of true fren .

crossblade said...

yea letting go of a friend is really hard....I left of whole load of good buddies when I finished college...omG those were the longest days of my life....
I was like..Oh sweet Lord ....why did You ever let me meet these wonderful people
God be with you
thomas

PuNeEt said...

Another very sweet post...
ur such a sweet friend :-))
Ur friends are lucky to have u...

Take care

Cheers

Sayesha said...

Thanks, Manish! I love that photo too! :)

Hi Thomas,
Yeah, I agree. Although you see it coming, but when it actually happens, the sudden emptiness around really pinches...

Thanks, Puneet :)

Ro said...

Sayesha,

Our connection shall always stay undiluted and you know that there shall be no real farewell between us.

Thanks, for everything.


Shina,

:P. Did you listen to Sayesha? You better take real good care of me. Otherwise she will send her goondas after you. She used to be a 'bhai' in her younger days.

Sayesha said...

Ro,
Yessir I know :)

//She used to be a 'bhai' in her younger days.
Whaddya mean by that?? Oye I am 18, remember? Still in "my younger days", okhay?? In fact, Virdi says I am 10.

Ro said...

Sa: I'll let u live in that delusion, old lady

Sayesha said...

Awww man! :(

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