Sunday, June 05, 2005

Conversation

When you suddenly discover that you're having the same conversation with a person over and over again, is it time to call it quits?



17 comments:

Sahil said...

Hell no dear sayesha!

It means you need something more interesting to talk about. And from reading your blog, I don't think thats a problem for ya.

Anil said...

It just means that there is a glitch in the Matrix. Don't fret, there ain't anything you can do about it.

Anonymous said...

Different ppl...different viewpoints. Accept and move on. We shouldnt try to impose our viewpoints.

Sahil said...

...sorry not my place to speak, maybe you know sayesha, or u r the person she is talking about, but she never said anything nor hinted anything about imposing viewpoints. All she said was she's having the same conversation over and over again.

..this is strange - somehow I'm feeling defensive for sayesha!!!

Anonymous said...

Examples of conversation which i eventually gave up on ...

Me : i love you
Girl : I have a boyfriend

Me : i love you
Girl : I have a boyfriend

Me : i love you
Girl : I have a boyfriend

Ahh.... To hell with the girl

Crazy Girl : I love you
Me : i am gay

Crazy Girl : I love you
Me : i am gay

Ahhh.... To hell with the girl

Hot Girl : hey what you doing
Me : reading the paper

Hot Girl : hey what you doing
Me : Trying to read the paper

Hot Girl : hey what you doing
Me : *Grin* having a peep through the pin hole ...

Ahhh... To hell with the paper

Sayesha said...

Thanks Sahil, for your undying faith in me, especially when I start losing it myself...

Anonymous, Sahil's right, this was never about viewpoints. This was about two friends and an almost fallout (did not happen, thank goodness).

Sometimes all you need is to take a break (even for a couple of hours), and things fall into place again.

I am so blessed to have people who care.

Anonymous said...

Err are you talking to anonymous 1 or anonymous 2 ....

Also, as long as we are on the break thing ....

Dosent History teach you anything ... I mean look at Ross and Rachel...

Anonymous said...

Damnit ... Sorry Ms Sayesha ...

Comment No 5, 7 and 8, by me ...

there that should have cleared the picture ...

Sayesha said...

Well, you can't possibly compare this to Ross' and Rachel's case. It was not a friendship they took a break from, it was this whole romantic thing... geez dun even get me started on them!

In any case, my take is -- if you're meant to be friends, you'll be friends, even after the break. In fact, I had like a 2-year break with someone who's one of my closest friends today. A break merely helps to clear the mind, and put things in perspective.

And finally, Anonymous, dun worry, I've got my anonymouses (is that even a word?) right. At least I think I have! :)

Sahil said...

A 2 year break - thats quite something.

If friends take a break from each other deliberately (as oppossed to drifting off), then I believe history will simply repeat itself - its only a matter of time. What caused you to take a break in the first place, will creep up again in some other form.

I don't mean to jinx your friendships if they've happened this way at all. Hope they last a lastime actually. But this is just MHO.

Tachyon said...

well... i would suggest that in such a case u both should start doing some activity together...it would keep ur mind busy and at the same time give u something new to talk about!!! hey,i was in a situation like this once...when this happened we ended up presenting a paper in a national seminar!!! ha ha ha!!! very constructive!!! But whatever happens...dont give up...good frnds r really rare these dayz... :-)

The Village Idiot / Soldier said...

Depends on what the conversation is. Even though it is the same conversation, it is happening again for a very specific reason.

I have had the same conversation with the same person about 8 times till date -and every time, I have learnt something about myself. I have also found out something new about the person. So depending on the conversation, each time can practically feel like a new conversation

Obviously simplistic examples like the one below are not what I am referring to:

Me : Do you like chocolate?
Friend: No

Me: Do you like chocolate?
Friend: No

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naari said...

Having the same conversation time and again may hint that there is something stuck in either friend's life which the person himself/herself or the friend is trying to understand. It may be a sudden change in behaviour or something that either or both feel is not quite right.

Same conversations also happen when there is a feeling of incompleteness from the orevious time you spoke, like there is yet something outstanding that has to be cleared before life can move on. Repetition is like an exhaustive stress to try and solve this missing bit.

Breaks like everything in life are transitionary, a change. People move apart and get back together..like sayesha said, "if its meant to be it will". And at times when you get back you are better friends than ever. The understanding is deeper and the bond stronger...

Friends are the windows to a person's personality. Your friends define you.

Angelsera said...

Naari, I like the way you put it...

naari said...

Thanks angelsera :) Due credit for such realizations goes to the amazing buddies I have in my life

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