Tuesday, May 03, 2005

Just say it

Lately, I have been completely honest with people and myself. I have expressed my opinions and feelings more freely than I have ever had.

My cousin brother Sid and I had been having fights our entire childhood. Sometimes, things would get serious and other cousins would have to intervene. We would shout and declare how much we hated each other. We practically grew up hating each other.

Now we are both in our 20s. And yet, every time we meet, we still have our fights. One fine day I suddenly realised that in spite of all our fights, he is still my little brother and I do love him dearly. But I had never told him that expressly. So I decided to do it last week. At first, I was going to wait till his birthday to send him an email and tell him how much he meant to me. But I couldn't wait. There is no point looking for
occasions or excuses to say such things.

I have started telling people important to me how much I love them, and how much they matter to me. I am not afraid of being vulnerable, with my feelings out there in the open. I am not afraid of being laughed at.
I am not afraid of being misunderstood. What I feel is what I feel.

If someone matters to you, tell them. Just say it. Life's too short to hold yourself back. Or to wait for the right moment.



Anish said...

righto lady...reminds me of rajesh khanna`s awesome dialogues on life in the earlypart of "Baawarchi"....i too hv a few things to say to some ppl...better do it fast.


The Village Idiot / Soldier said...

Well said. Life is too short to hold back anything. Here today, gone tomorrow.

C'est La Vie.

naari said...

True, True!! If you have seen 'Waqt' (the old one) and 'Tehzeeb' the significance of this blog will hit home!!

Har pal yahaan jee bhar jiyo,
Jo hai sama, kal ho na ho..

Or in the words of Kabir;
Kaal Kare So Aaj Kar,
Aaj Kare So Ub
Pal Mein Pralaya Hoyegi,
Bahuri Karoge Kub

Princesse said...

It's been ages since I heard someone speak of a doha of kabir saahib with such fluency. Well said.

Angelsera said...

way to go girl.I totally believe in letting people know how much they mean to me.More often then we realise,it improves the relationship and breaks more barriers,increases trust and well..generally makes everyone feel good that they are loved.

croondoodle said...

the fear of losing someone to having confessed what one feels is generally what keeps people from saying whether they love someone or how much they mean to them (of course, this doesn't include family)...hmmm...guess, if its received the right way, its beautiful...else it can be one horrible nightmare trying to come to terms with getting hurt for having been truthful with one's feelings for them!!! wish it could be as simple as with family.

Ro said...

soldier: did u mean 'hair today, gone tomorrow'?

adi said...

hey i have got an exactly similar mail.. frm sum crap friend of mine... u shuldnt have copied it frm dere.. or was it the other way round??

Bhavya said...

Would have to completely agree with you on this. It's such a good feeling to tell someone how much they matter to you - without waiting for an occasion - and make their day :)