Thursday, October 09, 2014

The phoren trio

Okay, so I am now officially 'phoren-returned'.

Confused?

When I was growing up in India, 'foreign' or 'phoren' as it was known as where I grew up, was a noun. It was a place. Even movies used 'phoren' whenever they wanted to refer to any place outside India. Remember the scene in Hum Aapke Hain Koun where Mohnish Behl comes running to Alok Nath and reports that "foreign se abhi abhi fax aaya hai"? Like seriously? You can't say the name of the city or even the country? You're holding the frickin' faxed document in your hand. It really says 'From: Foreign'? Anyway, my point is that this is how it was. Unlike today, back then, phoren for me was this very faraway impossible-to-get-to place with awesome clothes and yummy chocolates where the cool people of the world lived.

I used to have close brushes with phoren during some of my summer vacations when my mom's sister would fly down from London with suitcases full of clothes, toys and chocolates for everyone in the khandaan. And to me, that was the real phoren. London. Over the next few years, under the influence of Bollywood and more Bollywood, New York and Paris also got added to the phoren list and this trio was what defined phoren for me. And I dreamt that maybe, just maybe, some day I'd travel to these three places. Or maybe just two of 'em. Or one perhaps?

But things changed. 16 years ago, I got the scholarship to come to Singapore and it became my base, my home. And I could go anywhere I wanted. So I did. I checked off London from my list in 2003 (I'd been working for a year and saving up for it), New York in 2006 and finally last month, I went to Paris. After I'd climbed up the 704 steps up the Eiffel Tower and paused to take a breather, I looked at the view, speechless. And the little girl in me only had one thought - I've done it. I've been to phoren.

And now with that kiddy-bucket-list-item out of the way, big fancy cities don't hold much of a charm for me anymore. I'd like to explore the nooks and crannies of the world. Though my dad's job took us through a lot of places in India, there is so much unexplored territory there too. Like the northeast.

So yeah, now the big dream is to really see the world. But the sad truth is that seeing the world can be expensive. Viv and I generally live a very simple life, but the one thing we do set aside money for every year is a good holiday. It's a little more difficult now with Xena, but we have been managing and hopefully can continue. I find that nothing opens up the mind like travelling. There is so much beauty to marvel at, so many people to meet, so many unknown things to discover about ourselves, so many journeys to experience, and so many experiences to live.

And it is humbling to see what a tiny speck we are in the grand scheme of things.

Every time we travel, we meet so many elderly couples who have retired and their children have moved away and now they just travel the world. And Viv and I look at each other and think, some day that might be us. Hopefully. Life is so unpredictable that sometimes planning anything seems silly and futile, but hope is what the world runs on.

In the words of RL Stevenson - There is no foreign land; it is the traveller only that is foreign.



8 comments:

the.orchestra.of.life said...

I liked the last line ! :)

Varsha said...

So true, I have been to Paris and NYC. London is there in my wishlist. Traveling just sets the mind open.
Actually, I find that traveling in India itself is nothing short of a marvel. Each state has so much to offer. I actually found so much diversity within India, than within the countries of Europe. (Have visited Germany, France-Paris, Austria and Belgium). Hope to visit as many states of India along with some "phoren" lands.

Arun said...

Maybe the cool people live in London, but there are at least a few in Singapore :)

Thisisme said...

I have lived my childhood outside india..mainly africa..n so when i came back and did my schooling back in india..i was already so-called foreign returned...by the time i grew up..i had lost the charm of foreign..but a chance offer to london and i got exposed to whole new world as a grown up! After that, i have travelled a lot in europe / usa and it had opened my mind a lot. I genuinely believe travelling opens up ur mind like nothing else! Though I have financial compulsion but still i make it a pt to travel every yr :) n yes i do believe that india by itself has sooo much to offer..every state feels like a different country to me..its THAT diverse!!
Next on my wishlist is singapore/dubai!

shaktii said...

Hi sayesha,
Sorry for the deviation from your post topic
I just wanted to ask you something which may look very silly
But since you are so long in Singapore
Can you suggest some good shampoo you get here
I know different hair types need different shampoos but since market has so many variety our indian hair gets so much spoiled and hairfall with chlorine rich water here
Pls suggest something nice which I want to try
What do u use?

Manasi said...

Very well written!

Sayesha said...

the.orchestra.of.life,
Me too! :D

Varsha,
My wish list has the northeast and Kerala at the top. Some day! :)

Arun,
Awww... thanks. But I'm sure you meant Xena, not me! :/

Thisisme,
When are you coming to Singapore? Whenwhenwhen????

shaktii,
Not that I have great hair to dole out advice on the matter, but I use Dove shampoo and Dove/Pantene leave-in conditioner. In Singapore, you need to shampoo your hair almost every day due to the heat and humidity.

Manasi,
Thank you. :)

Thisisme said...

Singapore/Dubai are my dream destination..hopefully i will be there someday :)